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“What we often take to be family values--the work ethic, honesty, clean living, marital fidelity, and individual responsibility--are in fact social, religious, or cultural values. To be sure, these values are transmitted by parents to their children and are familial in that sense. They do not, however, originate within the family. It is the value of close relationships with other family members, and the importance of these bonds relative to other needs.”

“Certainly parents play a crucial role in the lives of individuals who are intellectually gifted or creatively talented. But this role is not one of active instruction, of teaching children skills,... rather, it is support and encouragement parents give children and the intellectual climate that they create in the home which seem to be the critical factors.”

Source: Miseducation: preschoolers at risk

“Much of the pressure contemporary parents feel with respect to dressing children in designer clothes, teaching young children academics, and giving them instruction in sports derives directly from our need to use our children to impress others with our economic surplus. We find "good" rather than real reasons for letting our children go along with the crowd.”

Source: Miseducation: preschoolers at risk

“Preschoolers sound much brighter and more knowledgeable than they really are, which is why so many parents and grandparents are sosure their progeny are gifted and super-bright. Because children's questions sound so mature and sophisticated, we are tempted to answer them at a level of abstraction far beyond the child's level of comprehension. That is a temptation we should resist.”

Source: La educacion erronea. Ninos preescolares en peligro

“Modern children were considerably less innocent than parents and the larger society supposed, and postmodern children are less competent than their parents and the society as a whole would like to believe. . . . The perception of childhood competence has shifted much of the responsibility for child protection and security from parents and society to children themselves.”

Believe Children Whole Parent Responsibility Modern Childhood Security Perception Protection Innocent Competence Competent Postmodern Responsibility For Children

Book:Ties That Stress: The New Family Imbalance

Source: Ties That Stress: The New Family Imbalance

“If it is to be done well, child-rearing requires, more than most activities of life, a good deal of decentering from one's own needs and perspectives. Such decentering is relatively easy when a society is stable and when there is an extended, supportive structure that the parent can depend upon.”

Ifs Needs Wells Children Done Easy Parent Deals Perspective Depends Activity Structure Stable Supportive Child Rearing

Book:The Hurried Child, 25th anniversary edition

Source: The Hurried Child, 25th anniversary edition

“Taking the child's point of view demands good will, time, and effort on the part of parents. The child is the clear beneficiary. Parents who make the effort to understand their children's point of view are likely to treat children fairly and in an age-appropriate manner.”

Children Age Parent Views Effort Clear Demand Treats Point Of View Appropriate Good Will Beneficiaries

Book:Ties That Stress: The New Family Imbalance

Source: Ties That Stress: The New Family Imbalance

“Here is the beginning of understanding: most parents are doing their best, and most children are doing their best, and they're doing pretty well, all things considered.”

Wells Children Parent Understanding All Things

Book:Childhood's Future

Source: Childhood's Future

“Rather than accepting the drifting separation of the generations, we might begin to define a more complex and interesting set of life stages and parenting passages, each emphasizing the connections to the generations ahead and behind. As I grow older, for example, I might first see my role as a parent in need of older, mentoring parents, and then become a mentoring parent myself. When I become a grandparent, I might expect to seek out older mentoring grandparents, and then later become a mentoring grandparent.”

Needs Firsts Might Grows Parent Interesting Behinds Accepting Roles Generations Stage Example Connections Complexes Separation Passages Grandparent Drifting Mentoring

Book:Childhood's Future

Source: Childhood's Future

“Most of us don't have mothers who blazed a trail for us--at least, not all the way. Coming of age before or during the inception of the women's movement, whether as working parents or homemakers, whether married or divorced, our mothers faced conundrums--what should they be? how should they act?--that became our uncertainties.”

Way Should Age Mother Parent Women Movement Married Uncertainty Coming Of Age Trails Divorced Inception Conundrums Homemaker Working Parents

Author:Anne Roiphe

“The best way of thinking of an attachment in my view, is to see it as the outcome of an interaction between two people, each of whom contributes to the quality of the relationship. Most parents can promote a secure relationship with a calm, pleasant, patient baby. Only particularly sensitive and patient parents can promote a secure attachment to a difficult baby.”

People Thinking Way Two Parent Difficult Views Quality Baby Patient Calm Best Way Secure Sensitive Outcomes Pleasant Attachment Interaction Way Of Thinking Bonding

Author:Sandra Scarr

“Parents who are cowed by temper tantrums and screaming defiance are only inviting more of the same. Young children become more cooperative with parents who confidently assert the reasons for their demands and enforce reasonable rules. Even if there are a few rough spots, relationships between parents and young children run more smoothly when the parent, rather than the child, is in control.”

Ifs Children Reason Running Young Parent Discipline Demand Spots Reasonable Rough Temper Defiance Inviting Young Children Cooperatives Tantrums Temper Tantrums

Author:Sandra Scarr

“All in all, the communally reared children of Israel are far from the emotional disasters that psychoanalytic theory predicted. Neither have they been saved from all personality problems, as the founders of the kibbutz movement had hoped when they freed children from their parents. In any reasonable environment, children seem to grow up to be themselves. There is no evidence that communal rearing with stimulating, caring adults is either the ruination or the salvation of children.”

“Parents ought to feel more comfortable about the care of their children than some experts would seem to permit. If children were so fragile and parenting so difficult to learn, where would we all be as adults?”

Ifs Feels Children Seems Care Parent Difficult Ought Comfortable Adults Experts Permit Fragile

Author:Sandra Scarr

“Children are just different from one another, especially in temperament. Some are shy, others bold; some active, others quiet; some confident, others less so. Respect for individual differences is in my view the cornerstone of good parent-child relationships.”

Children Different Individual Parent Differences Views Quiet Active Shy Temperament Cornerstones Good Parent Parent Child Individual Differences Parent Child Relationship

Author:Sandra Scarr

“Babies learn most of what they know from interactions with their parents, but not of the formal, instructional variety. Babies learn from spontaneous, everyday events--the mailman at the door with a package to open...all of which need adult interpretation. They are real events of interest and concern to babies and young children....By contrast, infant education is artificial and out of context.”

“Mothers have not always had the most important role in their children's upbringing, when they had other economic roles to play. Inpast centuries, fathers were the key parent in the upbringing of the next generation, because moral training, not emotional sensitivity, was thought to be central to successful child-rearing. Mothers were thought to corrupt their little ones with too much affection and not enough stern training.”

“Parents sometimes think of newborns as helpless creatures, but in fact parents' behavior is much more under the infant's control than the reverse. Does he come running when you cry?”

Thinking Doe Sometimes Facts Running Parent Cry Creatures Behavior Reverse Helpless Infant

Author:Sandra Scarr

“Mothers and fathers act in mostly similar ways toward their young children. Psychologists are still highlighting small differencesrather than the overwhelming similarities in parents' behaviors. I think this is a hangover from the 1950s re-emergence of father as a parent. He has to be special. The best summary of the evidence on mothers and fathers with their babies is that young children of both sexes, in most circumstances, like both parents equally well. Fathers, like mothers, are good parents first and gender representatives second.”

“Children thrive in a variety of family forms; they develop normally with single parents, with unmarried parents, with multiple caretakers in a communal setting, and with traditional two-parent families. What children require is loving and attentive adults, not a particular family type.”

Children Two Form Parent Particular Type Adults Setting Traditional Settings Variety Thrive Multiple Unmarried Single Parent Caretakers

Author:Sandra Scarr

“How well you do in life shouldn't depend on how well your parents did.”

Wells Parent Depends

Author:Robert D. Putnam

“I haven’t come from the typical path or background of someone who would make it to this level as a ballerina. When it came to my childhood-growing up in a single-parent home, often struggling financially-my mother definitely instilled in me and my siblings this strength, this will, to just continue to survive and succeed.”

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Author:Misty Copeland

“[My parents] worked hard all week long, and the way they celebrated and rejoiced in life was by making music on weekends. And that music was Country Music.”

Way Long Country Hard Parent Week Weekend

Author:Rodney Crowell

“There is one thing you and I as parents cannot do, not do we want to do if we really think about it, and that's control our children's will--that spirit that lets them be themselves apart from you and me. They are not ours to possess, control, manipulate, or even to make mind.”

Ifs Thinking Want Mind Children Spirit Parent One Thing Our Children Individuality Manipulate

Author:Barbara Coloroso

“Our goal as a parent is to give life to our children's learning--to instruct, to teach, to help them develop self-discipline--an ordering of the self from the inside, not imposition from the outside. Any technique that does not give life to a child's learning and leave a child's dignity intact cannot be called discipline--it is punishment, no matter what language it is clothed in.”

Giving Children Doe Self Matter Helping Language Parent Goal Teach Discipline Dignity Our Children No Matter What Technique Punishment Self Discipline Imposition

Author:Barbara Coloroso

“In healthy families, children discover (through being listened to) that what they have to say is important and that their experiences and ideas (and they themselves) have worth. They are encouraged to think for themselves, express opinions, and make decisions for themselves. Parents supporting them in standing on their own two feet and doing what they think is right. Trusting and gaining confidence in themselves, they develop an inner locus of control.”

Thinking Children Two Important Ideas Parent Decision Opinion Feet Healthy Standing Independence Gaining Confidence Healthy Family

Book:On the Wings of Self-esteem: A Companion for Personal Transformation

Source: On the Wings of Self-esteem: A Companion for Personal Transformation

“Conditional love is love that is turned off and on....Some parents only show their love after a child has done something that pleases them. "I love you, honey, for cleaning your room!" Children who think they need to earn love become people pleasers, or perfectionists. Those who are raised on conditional love never really feel loved.”

People Thinking Needs Feels Children Done Shows Parent Love Is Rooms Love You Please Raised Honey Cleaning Perfectionist Your Room Turned Off Conditional Pleasers Conditional Love

Author:Louise Hart

“Most adults would not dream of belittling, humiliating, or bullying (verbally or physically) another adult. But many of the same adults think nothing of treating their adolescent child like a nonperson. . . . Adolescents deserve the same civility their parents routinely extend to total strangers.”

Thinking Children Dream Parent Adults Deserve Stranger Bullying Adolescence Civility Humiliating Belittle

Book:You and Your Adolescent, New and Revised edition: The Essential Guide for Ages 10-25

Source: You and Your Adolescent, New and Revised edition: The Essential Guide for Ages 10-25

“The parent-adolescent relationship is like a partnership in which the senior partner (the parent) has more expertise in many areasbut looks forward to the day when the junior partner (the adolescent) will take over the business of running his or her own life.”

Looks Running Parent Partners Partnership Senior Juniors Expertise

Book:You and Your Adolescent, New and Revised edition: The Essential Guide for Ages 10-25

Source: You and Your Adolescent, New and Revised edition: The Essential Guide for Ages 10-25

“Parents sometimes feel that if they don't criticize their child, their child will never learn. Criticism doesn't make people wantto change; it makes them defensive.”

People Ifs Feels Children Sometimes Parent Criticism Criticize

Book:You and Your Adolescent, New and Revised edition: The Essential Guide for Ages 10-25

Source: You and Your Adolescent, New and Revised edition: The Essential Guide for Ages 10-25

“The colicky baby who becomes calm, the quiet infant who throws temper tantrums at two, the wild child at four who becomes seriousand studious at six all seem to surprise their parents. It is difficult to let go of one's image of a child, say goodbye to the child a parent knows, and get accustomed to this slightly new child inhabiting the known child's body.”

Knows Children Two Body Seems Parent Difficult Known Four Baby Quiet Letting Go Six Surprise Calm Goodbye Temper Accustomed Infant Saying Goodbye Tantrums Studious Temper Tantrums Wild Child

Author:Ellen Galinsky

“Often, when there is a conflict between parent and child, at its very hub is an expectation that the child should be acting differently. Sometimes these expectations run counter what is known about children's growth. They stem from remembering oneself, but usually at a slightly older age.”

Should Children Sometimes Running Age Remember Parent Growth Acting Known Conflict Expectations Oneself Stem Children And Parents Hub

Book:The Six Stages of Parenthood

Source: The Six Stages of Parenthood

“There is nothing intrinsically better about a child who happily bounces off to school the first day and a child who is wary, watchful, and takes a longer time to separate from his parents and join the group. Neither one nor the other is smarter, better adjusted, or destined for a better life.”

Firsts Children School Parent Groups Smarter Destined Better Life Bounce

Book:The Preschool Years

Source: The Preschool Years

“Take two kids in competition for their parents' love and attention. Add to that the envy that one child feels for the accomplishments of the other; the resentment that each child feels for the privileges of the other; the personal frustrations that they don't dare let out on anyone else but a brother or sister, and it's not hard to understand why in families across the land, the sibling relationship contains enough emotional dynamite to set off rounds of daily explosions.”

“The mere existence of an additional child or children in the family could signify Less. Less time alone with parents. Less attention for hurts and disappointments. Less approval for accomplishments. . . . No wonder children struggle so fiercely to be first or best. No wonder they mobilize all their energy to have more or most. Or better still, all.”

Firsts Children Stills Energy Parent Hurt Existence Attention Wonder Struggle Mere Disappointment Accomplishment Approval Sibling Me Alone Rivalry Alone Time Sibling Rivalry

Author:Adele Faber

“Reprehension is a kind of middle thing betwixt admonition and correction: it is sharpe admonition, but a milde correction. It is rather to be used because it may be a meanes to prevent strokes and blowes, especially in ingenuous and good natured children. [Blows are] the last remedy which a parent can use: a remedy which may doe good when nothing else can.”

Kind May Children Doe Use Lasts Used Parent Middle Discipline Blow Remedy Strokes Corrections Good Nature Admonition

Author:William Gouge

“A conscious parent is not one who seeks to fix her child or seek to produce or create the 'perfect' child. This is not about perfection. The conscious parent understands that is journey has been undertaken, this child has been called forth to 'raise the parent' itself. To show the parent where the parent has yet to grow. This is why we call our children into our lives.”

Children Has Beens Shows Grows Parent Perfect Our Lives Journey Produce Conscious Perfection Our Children Raises Perfect Child

Author:Shefali Tsabary

“Parents, preachers, and politicians think rock music is the source of young people's despair. They don't understand it's just a reflection. They also forget that music can be a source of hope, a reason to live.”

People Thinking Reason Young Parent Forget Rocks Source Politician Despair Music Is Reflection Preacher Rock Music Reason To Live

Book:Wicked Game

Source: Wicked Game

“As blacks, we need not be afraid that encouraging moral development, a conscience and guilt will prevent social action. Black children without the ability to feel a normal amount of guilt will victimize their parents, relatives and community first. They are unlikely to be involved in social action to improve the black community. Their self-centered personalities will cause them to look out for themselves without concern for others, black or white.”

“Children in home-school conflict situations often receive a double message from their parents: "The school is the hope for your future, listen, be good and learn" and "the school is your enemy. . . ." Children who receive the "school is the enemy" message often go after the enemy--act up, undermine the teacher, undermine the school program, or otherwise exercise their veto power.”

Children Home School Parent Situation Enemy Teacher Exercise Conflict Messages Program Be Good My Children Our Future Your Future Veto

Author:James P. Comer

“Often low-income parents give their children every other thing they need for successful participation in school and the world of work except the planning and organizing skills and habit patterns needed to operate in complex settings. Many intelligent and able college students from low-income backgrounds confront these deficits when faced with a heavy assignment load. . . . These patterns are best acquired at an early age and need to be quite well developed by late elementary school or twelve or thirteen years of age.”

Source: School Power: Implications of an Intervention Project

“Friends serve central functions for children that parents do not, and they play a critical role in shaping children's social skills and their sense of identity. . . . The difference between a child with close friendships and a child who wants to make friends but is unable to can be the difference between a child who is happy and a child who is distressed in one large area of life.”

Want Children Play Social Parent Differences Roles Identity Skills Areas Function Critical Close Friends Social Skills Close Friendship

Author:Zick Rubin

“Whereas children can learn from their interactions with their parents how to get along in one sort of social hierarchy--that of the family--it is from their interactions with peers that they can best learn how to survive among equals in a wide range of social situations.”

Children Social Parent Situation Wide Range Interaction Peers Hierarchy Social Hierarchy

Author:Zick Rubin

“I leave my parents here behind And all my friends to love resigned 'Tis grief to go, but death to stay Farewell -- I'm gone with love away.”

Parent Grief Behinds Gone My Friends Farewell Resigned

Book:The Hope of Liberty: Containing a Number of Poetical Pieces

Source: The Hope of Liberty: Containing a Number of Poetical Pieces

“Some people have concerns about what it means to leave our responsibilities to robots. I think to some degree in every family, you've got siblings who disagree over the care for their parents.”

People Thinking Mean Care Parent Responsibility Degrees Concern Disagree Robots Sibling

Author:Jake Schreier

“I had a good, sound upbringing with sensible people around me. I was brought up by intelligent parents. My mother always said to me, "You've got to work at your career and you've got to be good at it. Okay, you've had a bit of success but that's not longevity. You've got to really work for a long time."”

People Long Said Mother Bits Parent Sound Careers Long Time Okay Intelligent Be Good Sensible Longevity Upbringing

Author:Olivia Newton-John

“I respect my parents' opinion very much. No matter how old you are, what your parents think is very important. If they like your boyfriend or if they like some work you've done. And if they don't, it's more shattering than anybody else telling you, because they're the most honest.”

Ifs Thinking Important Matter Done Parent Opinion Honest Like You Old You Shattering Your Boyfriend

Author:Olivia Newton-John

“When you're a parent, then you still have to commit to this concept of, "Okay, I'm basically out of action now for three months."”

Stills Action Three Parent Months Concepts Okay Commit Three Months

Author:Thom Yorke

“I think it's hard for any parent to see anything negative said or done against your child and, when you can't directly do something about it, it's hard.”

Thinking Children Said Hard Done Parent Negative Our Children Your Children

Author:Pattie Mallette

“I was lucky with my parents, for my mom and my dad particularly, much more than my mom, who was very compassionate and loving to everyone. And then, as I got into my career, I started and other people started to realize that I was good at it.”

People Parent Realizing Careers Mom Dad Lucky My Dad My Mom Compassionate

Author:Shep Gordon

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