“Anyone who is suffering from shame and public humiliation needs to know one thing: You can survive it... You can insist on a different ending to your story. Have compassion for yourself. We all deserve compassion, and to live both online and off in a more compassionate world.” KnowsWorldNeedsDifferentStoriesSufferingCompassionOne ThingDeserveShameOnlineCompassionateHumiliationAnd OffCompassion For Yourself Author:Monica Lewinsky
“The difference between guilt and shame is very clear--in theory. We feel guilty for what we do. We feel shame for what we are. A person feels guilt because he did something wrong. A person feels shame because he is something wrong. We may feel guilty because we lied to our mother. We may feel shame because we are not the person our mother wanted us to be.” PeopleWantFeelsMayPersonsDifferentFeelingsWantedLyingMotherDifferencesClearTheoryShameGuiltGuiltyAshamedWrongLied Author:Lewis B. Smedes
“. . . what a burning shame it is that many of the pieces on the subject of slavery and the slave trade, contained in different school books, have been lost sight of, or been subject to the pruning knife of the slaveholding expurgatorial system!” Has BeensBookDifferentSchoolLostPiecesSubjectsSightShameSlaveryTradeSlaveBurningKnivesSlave TradePruning Author:Robert Purvis
“The law demands good works and uses its terror--rejection, shame, fear of punishment, unanswered prayer, personal tragedy, etc.--as motivation. Here performance is a necessity to secure the blessings and avoid the curses. Grace, on the other hand, allows us to serve on a different basis--not from fear but on the basis of love and gratitude, from appreciation and gladness for blessings freely given and freely received.” MenLoveDifferentUseHandsAgeLawMotivationEvilGivenFearFreedomPrayerSinLibertyGraceGratitudeBlessingDemandPerformancesBasesTragedyShameTerrorAppreciationPunishmentSecureCurseRejectionEtcGood WorkGladnessAnswered PrayersLove And GratitudeUnansweredUnanswered PrayersPersonal Tragedy Author:Richard Jordan
“Every writer scrounges for inspiration in different places, and there's no shame in raiding the headlines. It's necessary, in fact, when attempting contemporary satire. Sharp-edged humor relies on topical reference points.” DifferentFactsInspirationShameContemporaryRelySatireAttemptingDifferent PlaceHeadlinesRaiding Author:Carl Hiaasen
“The ways of God are entirely different from our ways. To us it seems necessary to employ powerful means in order to produce great effects. This is not God's method; quite the contrary. He likes to choose the weakest instruments that He may confound the strong: "God chose what is weak in the world to shame the strong - Infirma mundi elegit ut confundat fortia".” WorldWayMayMeanDifferentSeemsOrderStrongPowerfulEffectsProduceWeakShameMethodInstrumentsContraryLikesRosary Author:Columba Marmion
“On one hand, prostitutes don't struggle because it's simply their life. In Mexico and elsewhere, once they get out of these places [brothels] they have a pretty square life. In Bangladesh it's different because they live in the brothel, it's sort of a prison, but still there are two sides. When they think of their religion and their upbringing, they can be very moralistic. They're moralistic about giving blow jobs. On the other hand, they have an everyday life where there's no room for shame.” ThinkingGivingStillsTwoDifferentHandsJobsSidesRoomsStruggleShamePrisonEverydayBlowSquaresMexicoElsewhereEveryday LifeUpbringingTwo SidesBangladeshBrothelsBlow Job Author:Michael Glawogger
“As you become an adult, shame gets introduced and reintroduced constantly to you. So where something that, to a child, just is what it is - you know, your father's violent but he loves you and that's just the way it is - later on you realize that this is like different, shameful, blah blah blah.” KnowsWayChildrenDifferentFatherRealizingLove YouAdultsShameViolentShamefulBlah Author:Justin Torres
“I learned many lessons from my first race with my heroes. I learned it was easier to breathe when I cried, so I cried often and without shame. I learned that a teammate's faith in you can propel you up any mountain. I learned that winning requires an entirely different mind-set than not losing. I learned that the best teams in the world share not only their strengths but also their weaknesses. I learned that you don't inspire your teammates by showing them how amazing you are. You inspire them by showing them how amazing they are.” WorldMindFirstsDifferentWinningRaceTeamShareInspireHeroEasierLessonsMountainLosingWeaknessShameBreatheCriedTeammateMy HeroMind SetBest TeamDifferent Minds Author:Robyn Benincasa
“The outsider hero is hero riding into town, he's the gunslinger, shame - the same thing, he didn't want to do it anymore, he wanted to live a different life but part of who you are sort of haunts you and you can't run away from evil and if you have special skills, and most people are mistreated, which is unfortunately in our world, we always need an equalizer, that type of character to come to our rescue.” PeopleIfsWorldWantNeedsDifferentCharacterRunningWantedEvilSpecialTypeHeroSkillsTownsShameWho You AreOur WorldRunning AwayRidingRescueOutsidersDifferent LifeEqualizerMistreatedGunslinger Author:Antoine Fuqua
“Most writers are lazy intellectuals, and it's a goddamn shame because a writer with an audience has a moral responsibility to make readers think about the world in a different way than what they're used to. Why else would you pick up a book if not to inhabit another realm of existence for a while?” IfsThinkingWorldWayBookDifferentUsedExistenceResponsibilityMoralAudienceReaderPicksShameDifferent WaysRealmsLazyMoral Responsibility Author:Kevin Keck
“My influences are jazz, blues, European classical music; they are rock music and pop music. So many kinds of music. World music from different countries like India and China. I think that would be a shame not to take advantage and do something... not unique, because I don't have this pretension.” ThinkingWorldKindDifferentCountryWould BeInfluenceRocksUniqueAdvantageIndiaShameJazzChinaPopsClassical MusicPop MusicRock MusicPretensionDifferent CountriesWorld Music Author:Rokia Traore
“When I was writing the book, I thought "Who wants to hear another story about some actor who lost his way?" But my story is a little unique in that I realized when I was 14 years old that I was different. I think a lot of gay people use drugs and alcohol to quell that fear and shame - especially people of my age.” PeopleThinkingWayWantWritingYearsLittlesBookDifferentStoriesUseAgeActorsLostGayDrugUniqueShameAlcoholI RealizedGay PeopleDrugs And Alcohol Author:Leslie Jordan
“I think in its own small way, it did push people to be more accepting of different kinds of music. It definitely made music more egalitarian in terms of, it took away the shame of the goofy bands that you liked.” PeopleThinkingWayKindMadeDifferentTermAcceptingBandShameDifferent KindsGoofyDifferent Kinds Of Music Author:Jancee Dunn
“I may have disparaged the idea that people are looking at films on smaller and smaller screens... it's a shame that people have to watch DVDs with the lights on in a television-type situation where people are wandering in and out of the room. Movies are different from television, and you cannot watch movies like television. It distorts it.” PeopleMayIdeasDifferentLightFilmRoomsSituationWatchesTelevisionTypeShameScreensWanderDvdsWatch Movie Author:Oliver Stone
“People grow up learning to be silent about their sexuality, so where are they going to learn to talk about it when they are in a relationship? Shame, guilt, ignorance, reservation, prudishness, all kinds of different cultural systems and social stereotypes shroud sexuality in secrecy and in silence. And there's the romantic notion. "If I say in the beginning, that I am missing something, you are instantly going to think that means you are not enough."” PeopleThinkingKindMeanDifferentEnoughSilenceGrowing UpMissingIgnoranceShameGuiltSilentSexualityAll KindsStereotypeSecrecy Author:Esther Perel
“I have no shame around the fact that I can be shot into suicidal feelings by certain people's treatment of me. I am no different to any other person, I therefore act as I believe any other person should be free to.” PeopleShouldBelievePersonsI CanDifferentFactsFeelingsCertainI BelieveShotsShameTreatmentSuicidal Author:Sinead O'Connor
“When everyone at school is speaking one language, and a lot of your classmates' parents also speak it, and you go home and see that your community is different -there is a sense of shame attached to that. It really takes growing up to treasure the specialness of being different.” DifferentHomeSchoolSpeakLanguageParentCommunityGrowing UpGrowingShameTreasureBeing DifferentClassmatesSpecialness Author:Sonia Sotomayor
“She was made up of more, too. She was the books she read in the library. She was the flower in the brown bowl. Part of her life was made from the tree growing rankly in the yard. She was the bitter quarrels she had with her brother whom she loved dearly. She was Katie's secret, despairing weeping. She was the shame of her father stumbling home drunk. She was all of these things and of something more...It was what God or whatever is His equivalent puts into each soul that is given life - the one different thing such as that which makes no two fingerprints on the face of the earth alike.” MadeTwoBookDifferentSoulHomeEarthFacesFatherGivenSecretGrowingTreeBrotherFlowerShameLibraryBitterDrunkBrownDifferent ThingsBowlsYardsQuarrelsWeepingStumblingKatieFingerprintsGiven Life Book:A Tree Grows in Brooklyn Source: A Tree Grows in Brooklyn
“Our strategy should be not only to confront empire, but to lay siege to it. To deprive it of oxygen. To shame it. To mock it. With our art, our music, our literature, our stubbornness, our joy, our brilliance, our sheer relentlessness — and our ability to tell our own stories. Stories that are different from the ones we’re being brainwashed to believe. The corporate revolution will collapse if we refuse to buy what they are selling — their ideas, their version of history, their wars, their weapons, their notion of inevitability.” IfsShouldBelieveArtIdeasDifferentWarStoriesJoyLiteratureAbilityRevolutionWeaponsShameStrategyLaysNotionRefuseVersionsSellingCorporateEmpiresCollapseSheerOxygenBrillianceMockInevitabilityStubbornnessBrainwashedSiege Book:War Talk Source: War Talk
“We are all freaks. Yes! Alone in our rooms at night, we are all weirdoes and outcasts and losers. That is what being a teenager is all about! Whether you admit it or not, you are all worried that the others won’t accept you, that if they knew the real you, they would recoil in horror. Each of us carries with us a secret shame that we think is somehow unique…And if we are, each of us, freaks – then can’t we accept what’s different in each other and move on?” IfsThinkingDifferentRealMovingNightRoomsSecretAcceptingHorrorUniqueShameTeenagerWorriedCarrieLoserFreakOutcastReal YouRecoilBeing A Teenager Author:James St. James
“Sophie held the [hand]cuffs higher, hopint to instill some sense of shame, if not in him, then at least in herself. One look at him and she wanted him again. "I found them in the bed." "That makes sense," Phin said. "That's where I lost them." "I'd ask what you were doing with them," Sophie said, trying not to sound bitchy, "but I probably don't want to know, do I?" "Sure you do. It was exciting and different and depraved." Phin nodded toward the stairs. "Go put them someplace we can find them, and I'll show you later.” IfsKnowsWantTryingLooksSaidDifferentShowsHandsWantedAsksFoundLostSoundHigherBedExcitingShameMake SenseStairsSophieInstillDepravedCuffs Author:Jennifer Crusie
“Oh! why was I born with a different face? why was I not born like the rest of my race? when I look,each one starts! when I speak, I offend; then Im silent & passive & lose every friend. Then my verse I dishonour, my pictures despise, my person degrade & my temper chastise; and the pen is my terror, the pencil my shame; all my talents I bury, and dead is my fame. Im either too low or too highly prized; when elate I m envy'd, when meek Im despis'd” LooksPersonsDifferentFacesSpeakBornLosesRaceTalentFameLowsShameSilentTerrorEnvyPensTemperDespiseVersesPassivePencilsDegradeMeekDishonourDifferent Faces Book:The Selected Poems of William Blake Source: The Selected Poems of William Blake
“Most of our difficulties, our hopes, and our worries are empty fantasies. Nothing has ever existed except this moment. That's all there is. That's all we are. Yet most human beings spend 50 to 90 percent or more of their time in their imagination, living in fantasy. We think about what has happened to us, what might have happened, how we feel about it, how we should be different, how others should be different, how it's all a shame, and on and on; it's all fantasy, all imagination. Memory is imagination. Every memory that we stick to devastates our life.” ThinkingFeelsShouldHumansDifferentMomentsMightImaginationMemoriesHuman BeingsWorryFantasyOur LivesHappenedPercentEmptyDifficultyShameSticks Author:Joko Beck
“The irony of conversing with a stranger is that your individual lives always look very different and personal, but then you strip away the nuances to find a common likeness buried inside of diversity. Take away money and geography and we’re all just flesh and blood and soul. We’re all dealing with sin and forgiveness, love and hate, glory and shame.” LooksDifferentSoulHateIndividualSinCommonBloodDiversityGloryShameStrangerFleshIronyBuriedGeographyNuanceLove And HateFlesh And BloodIndividual LifeForgiveness Love Author:Charlie Peacock
“A man who has broken with his past feels a different man. He will not feel it a shame to confess his past wrongs, for the simple reason that these wrongs do not touch him at all.” MenFeelsDifferentReasonPastSinSimpleBrokenShameConfessionPast Wrongs Book:Young India Source: Young India
“Extraordinarily excessive sensuality it may be .. but it all comes down to the same thing in the end, and one means is surely as good as another, since the end obtained is always the same. In any case the exceptional, endlessly repeated, is no different than the banal; and unceasing recapitulation can add nothing, in the end, to the sum of experience. I am weary and hopeless three times the dupe. Why have you trained me in the shame of abominable sins?” MayMeanDifferentEndsThreeSinCasesShameAddLustSensualityHopelessWearyThree TimesExceptionalDupesRecapitulation Author:Remy de Gourmont