“When we fear punishment, we focus on consequences, not on our own values.”
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Famous Marshall B. Rosenberg Quotes
“The cause of anger lies in our thinking - in thoughts of blame and judgment.”
“As we learn to speak from the heart we are changing the habits of a lifetime.”
“NVC gives us tools and understanding to create a more peaceful state of mind.”
“Always listen to what people need rather than what they are thinking about us.”
“Upset? Ask yourself what this person does that is a trigger for judging them?”
“Punishment also includes judgmental labeling and the withholding of privileges.”
“Compliments and praise, for their part, are tragic expressions of fulfilled needs”
“Behind intimidating messages are simply people appealing to us to meet their needs.”
“What all the basic religions are saying is this: Don't do anything that isn't play.”
Source: The Heart of Social Change: How to Make a Difference in Your World
“Get very clear about the kind of world we would like and then start living that way.”
Source: The Heart of Social Change: How to Make a Difference in Your World
“We can never make anyone do anything against their will without enormous consequences.”
“We use NVC to evaluate ourselves in ways that engender growth rather than self-hatred.”
“As long as I think I 'should' do it, I'll resist it, even if I want very much to do it.”
Source: Getting Past the Pain Between Us: Healing and Reconciliation Without Compromise
“I don't think you can have an authentic connection when one person is diagnosing the other.”
“Understanding the other persons' needs does not mean you have to give up on your own needs.”
Source: We Can Work it Out: Resolving Conflicts Peacefully and Powerfully
“We are never angry because of what others say or do. It is our thinking that makes us angry.”
“When we understand the needs that motivate our own and others behavior, we have no enemies.”
“NVC requires us to be continually conscious of the beauty within ourselves and other people.”
Source: Teaching Children Compassionately: How Students and Teachers Can Succeed with Mutual Understanding
“People heal from their pain when they have an authentic connection with another human being.”
“The most dangerous of all behaviors may consist of doing things 'because we're supposed to.”
“All moralistic judgments, whether positive or negative, are tragic expressions of unmet needs.”
“Anger can be a wonderful wake up call to help you understand what you need and what you value.”
“In our culture, most of us have been trained to ignore our own wants and to discount our needs.”
“The key to fostering connection in the face of a 'no' is always hearing 'yes' to something else.”
“The first step in healing is to put the focus on what's alive now, not what happened in the past.”
Source: Getting Past the Pain Between Us: Healing and Reconciliation Without Compromise
“Violence comes from the belief that other people cause our pain and therefore deserve punishment.”
Source: The Heart of Social Change: How You Can Make a Difference in Your World
Source: Getting Past the Pain Between Us: Healing and Reconciliation Without Compromise
Source: We Can Work it Out: Resolving Conflicts Peacefully and Powerfully
Source: Life-enriching Education: Nonviolent Communication Helps Schools Improve Performance, Reduce Conflict, and Enhance Relationships