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Source: Getting Past the Pain Between Us: Healing and Reconciliation Without Compromise

“Anger is a signal that you're distracted by judgmental or punitive thinking, and that some precious need of yours is being ignored.”

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Author:Marshall B. Rosenberg

“Whether I praise or criticize someone's action, I imply that I am their judge, that I'm engaged in rating them or what they have done.”

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Author:Marshall B. Rosenberg

“While we may not consider the way we talk to be 'violent,' our words often lead to hurt and pain, whether for others or for ourselves.”

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“We can't win at somebody else's expense. We can only fully be satisfied when the other person's needs are fulfilled as well as our own.”

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Author:Marshall B. Rosenberg

“The intention behind the protective use of force is to prevent injury, never to punish or to cause individuals to suffer, repent or change.”

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Author:Marshall B. Rosenberg

“Make your goal to attend to your underlying needs and to aim for a resolution so satisfying that everyone involved has their needs met also.”

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Author:Marshall B. Rosenberg

“Our survival as a species depends on our ability to recognize that our well-being and the well-being of others are in fact one and the same.”

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“The more we use words that in any way imply criticism, the more difficult it is for people to stay connected to the beauty within themselves.”

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Book:Teaching Children Compassionately: How Students and Teachers Can Succeed with Mutual Understanding

Source: Teaching Children Compassionately: How Students and Teachers Can Succeed with Mutual Understanding

“Never question the beauty of what you are saying because someone reacts with pain, judgment, criticism. It just means they have not heard you.”

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Author:Marshall B. Rosenberg

“Use the words "I feel because I" to remind us that what we feel it isn't because of what the other person did, but because of a choice I've made.”

Feels Persons Made Use Choices Communication Nonviolent Communication

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“Nonviolent Communication shows us a way of being very honest, but without any criticism, without any insults, without any put-downs, without any intellectual diagnosis implying wrongness.”

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“Once you have access to key people in an organization, if you go into a meeting with enemy images of those people - then you are not going to connect.”

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Book:The Heart of Social Change: How to Make a Difference in Your World

Source: The Heart of Social Change: How to Make a Difference in Your World

“We recognize that real educational reform is essential if today's and tomorrow's children are to live in a more peaceful, just, and sustainable world.”

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Book:Life-enriching Education: Nonviolent Communication Helps Schools Improve Performance, Reduce Conflict, and Enhance Relationships

Source: Life-enriching Education: Nonviolent Communication Helps Schools Improve Performance, Reduce Conflict, and Enhance Relationships

“I believe that the most joyful and intrinsic motivation human beings have for taking any action is the desire to meet our needs and the needs of others.”

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Author:Marshall B. Rosenberg

“My need is for safety, fun and to have distribution of resources, a sustainable life on the planet. NVC is a strategy that serves me to meet these needs.”

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“My ultimate goal is to spend as many of my moments in life as I can in that world that the poet Rumi talks about, 'a place beyond rightness and wrongness.”

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Book:Getting Past the Pain Between Us: Healing and Reconciliation Without Compromise

Source: Getting Past the Pain Between Us: Healing and Reconciliation Without Compromise

“Four D's of Disconnection: 1. Diagnosis (judgment, analysis, criticism, comparison); 2. Denial of Responsibility; 3. Demand; 4. 'Deserve' oriented language.”

Language Responsibility Four Communication Demand Judgment Deserve Criticism Denial Analysis Comparison Diagnosis Nonviolent Communication Disconnection

Author:Marshall B. Rosenberg

“Praise and reward create a system of extrinsic motivations for behavior. Children (and adults) end up taking action in order to receive the praise or rewards.”

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Author:Marshall B. Rosenberg

“Two things distinguish nonviolent actions from violent actions. First, you don't see an enemy and second, your intention is not to make the other side suffer.”

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Author:Marshall B. Rosenberg

“I think that there is a problem with rewards and consequences because in the long run, they rarely work in the ways we hope. In fact, they are likely to backfire.”

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Author:Marshall B. Rosenberg

“Once you can clearly describe what you are reacting to, free of your interpretation or evaluation of it, other people are less likely to be defensive when they hear it.”

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Author:Marshall B. Rosenberg

“When we make mistakes, we can use the process of NVC mourning and self-forgiveness to show us where we can grow instead of getting caught up in moralistic self-judgments.”

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Author:Marshall B. Rosenberg

“NVC is interested in learning that is motivated by reverence for life, by a desire to learn skills, to contribute better to our own well-being and the well-being of others.”

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Book:Teaching Children Compassionately: How Students and Teachers Can Succeed with Mutual Understanding

Source: Teaching Children Compassionately: How Students and Teachers Can Succeed with Mutual Understanding

“Power-Over leads to punishment and violence. Power-With leads to compassion and understanding, and to learning motivated by reverence for life rather than fear, guilt, shame, or anger.”

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Book:Teaching Children Compassionately: How Students and Teachers Can Succeed with Mutual Understanding

Source: Teaching Children Compassionately: How Students and Teachers Can Succeed with Mutual Understanding

“If we ask two questions, we will see that punishment never works. First: What do we want the other person to do? Second: What do we want the other person's reasons to be for doing as we request?”

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Author:Marshall B. Rosenberg

“Labeling and diagnosis is a catastrophic way to communicate. Telling other people what's wrong with them greatly reduces, almost to zero, the probability that we're going to get what we're after.”

People Way Communication Communicate Zero Probability Diagnosis Nonviolent Communication Labeling

Author:Marshall B. Rosenberg

“To practice NVC, it's critical for me to be able to slow down, take my time, to come from an energy I choose, the one I believe that we were meant to come from, not the one I was programmed into.”

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Author:Marshall B. Rosenberg

“Clinical training in psychoanalysis has a deficit. It teaches how to sit and think about what a person is saying and how to interpret it intellectually, but not how to be fully present to this person.”

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Author:Marshall B. Rosenberg

“The number one reason that we don't get our needs met, we don't express them. We express judgments. If we do express needs, the number two reasons we don't our needs met, we don't make clear requests.”

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Author:Marshall B. Rosenberg

“Before we tackle the gangs and the basic story, we have to make sure that we have liberated ourselves from how we have been educated and make sure we are coming from a spirituality of our own choosing.”

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Book:The Heart of Social Change: How to Make a Difference in Your World

Source: The Heart of Social Change: How to Make a Difference in Your World

“Conventional compliments often take the form of judgments however positive, and are sometimes offered to manipulate the behavior of others. NVC encourages the expression of appreciation solely for celebration.”

Sometimes Form Expression Communication Behavior Judgment Appreciation Compliment Celebration Conventional Manipulate Nonviolent Communication

Author:Marshall B. Rosenberg

“Children need far more than basic skills in reading, writing, and math, as important as those might be. Children also need to learn how to think for themselves, how to find meaning in what they learn, and how to work and live together.”

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Book:Life-enriching Education: Nonviolent Communication Helps Schools Improve Performance, Reduce Conflict, and Enhance Relationships

Source: Life-enriching Education: Nonviolent Communication Helps Schools Improve Performance, Reduce Conflict, and Enhance Relationships

“Teacher, school administrators and parents will come away from Life-Enriching Education with skills in language, communication, and ways of structuring the learning environment that support the development of autonomy and interdependence in the classroom.”

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Book:Life-enriching Education: Nonviolent Communication Helps Schools Improve Performance, Reduce Conflict, and Enhance Relationships

Source: Life-enriching Education: Nonviolent Communication Helps Schools Improve Performance, Reduce Conflict, and Enhance Relationships

“NVC can be effectively applied at all levels of communication and in diverse situations: intimate relationships, families, schools, organizations and institutions, therapy and counseling, diplomatic and business negotiations, disputes and conflicts of any nature.”

School Levels Situation Communication Conflict Organization Institutions Therapy Intimate Diverse Negotiation Disputes Nonviolent Communication Diplomatic Counseling Intimate Relationships

Author:Marshall B. Rosenberg

“There are the two main reasons we don't get our needs met. First, we don't know how to express our needs to begin with and second if we do, we forget to put a clear request after it, or we use vague words like appreciate, listen, recognize, know, be real, and stuff like that.”

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Author:Marshall B. Rosenberg

“As NVC replaces our old patterns of defending, withdrawing or attacking in the face of judgment and criticism. We come to perceive ourselves and others, as well as our intentions and relationships, in a new light. Resistance, defensiveness, and violent reactions are minimized.”

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Author:Marshall B. Rosenberg

“Some people use NVC to respond compassionately to themselves, some to create greater depth in their personal relationships, and still others to build effective relationships at work or in the political arena. Worldwide, NVC is used to mediate disputes and conflicts at all levels.”

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Author:Marshall B. Rosenberg

“Every moment each human being is doing the best we know at that moment to meet our needs. We never do anything that is not in the service of a need, there is no conflict on our planet at the level of needs. We all have the same needs. The problem is in strategies for meeting the needs.”

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“When we express our needs indirectly through the use of evaluations, interpretations, and images, others are likely to hear criticism. When people hear anything that sounds like criticism, they tend to invest their energy in self-defense or counterattack. It's important that when we address somebody that we're clear what we want back.”

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Author:Marshall B. Rosenberg

“If I'm using Nonviolent Communication I never, never, never hear what somebody thinks about me. Never hear what somebody thinks about you, you'll live longer. You'll enjoy life more. Hear the truth. The truth is that when somebody's telling you what's wrong with you, the truth is they have a need that isn't getting met. Hear that they're in pain. Don't hear the analysis.”

“Public education for some time has been heavily focused on what curricula we believe will be helpful to students. Life-Enriching Education is based on the premise that the relationship between teachers and students, the relationships of students with one another, and the relationships of students to what they are learning are equally important in preparing students for the future.”

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Book:Life-enriching Education: Nonviolent Communication Helps Schools Improve Performance, Reduce Conflict, and Enhance Relationships

Source: Life-enriching Education: Nonviolent Communication Helps Schools Improve Performance, Reduce Conflict, and Enhance Relationships

“Conflicts, even of long standing duration, can be resolved if we can just keep the flow of communication going in which people come out of their heads and stop criticizing and analyzing each other, and instead get in touch with their needs, and hear the needs of others, and realize the interdependence that we all have in relation to each other. We can't win at somebody else's expense. We can only fully be satisfied when the other person's needs are fulfilled as well as our own.”

“At the core of all anger is a need that is not being fulfilled.”

Needs Anger Core Fulfilled Nonviolent Communication Anger And Pain

Author:Marshall B. Rosenberg

“When we are in contact with our feelings and needs, we humans no longer make good slaves and underlings.”

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Author:Marshall B. Rosenberg

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