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“When a child becomes an adult . . . the elders are fearful. And for good reason . . . not we but they are the germinators of future generations. Will they leave us behind as we did our parents? Consign us to neatly paved retirement villages? Trample us in the dust as they go flying out to their new galaxies? We had better tie them down, flagellate them, isolate them in the family cocoon, . . . indoctrinate them into the tribal laws and make sure they kneel before the power of the elders.”

Children Reason Law Parent Behinds Generations Adults Flying Dust Ties Village Retirement Fearful Adolescence Galaxy Elders Future Generation Cocoons

Author:Louise J. Kaplan

“Children in the 21st (century) have been transformed from net producers of their own toy and play culture, to net consumers of play culture imposed by adults.”

Children Has Beens Play Culture Century Adults Producers Consumers Transformed Toys 21st Century

Author:David Elkind

“Adolescents are travelers, far from home with no native land, neither children nor adults. They are jet-setters who fly from one country to another with amazing speed. Sometimes they are four years old, an hour later they are twenty-five. They don't really fit anywhere. There's a yearning for place, a search for solid ground.”

Years Children Country Sometimes Home Hours Five Four Land Fit Adults Twenties Speed Native Four Years Yearning Traveler Jet Twenty Five Native Land

Book:Reviving Ophelia

Source: Reviving Ophelia

“The child who would be an adult must give up any lingering childlike sense of parental power, either the magical ability to solveyour problems for you or the dreaded ability to make you turn back into a child. When you are no longer hiding from your parents, or clinging to them, and can accept them as fellow human beings, then they may do the same for you.”

Giving Humans May Children Problem Would Be Turns Parent Human Beings Ability Accepting Growing Up Giving Up Adults Fellows Hiding Clinging Childlike Parental Lingering

Author:Frank Pittman

“Rearing a family is probably the most difficult job in the world. It resembles two business firms merging their respective resources to make a single product. All the potential headaches of that operation are present when an adult male and an adult female join to steer a child from infancy to adulthood.”

World Children Two Jobs Difficult Products Adults Resources Female Males Firm Operations Adulthood Steers Infancy Headache Merging

Book:The new peoplemaking

Source: The new peoplemaking

“Till now, society has protected the adult and blamed the victim. It has been abetted in its blindness by theories, still in keeping with the pedagogical principles of our great- grandparents, according to which children are viewed as crafty creatures, dominated by wicked drives, who invent stories and attack their innocent parents or desire them sexually. In reality, children tend to blame themselves for their parents' cruelty and to absolve the parents, whom they invariably love, of all responsibility.”

Source: The Untouched Key: Tracing Childhood Trauma in Creativity and Destructiveness

“Almost everywhere we find . . . the use of various coercive measures, to rid ourselves as quickly as possible of the child withinus--i.e., the weak, helpless, dependent creature--in order to become an independent competent adult deserving of respect. When we reencounter this creature in our children, we persecute it with the same measures once used in ourselves.”

Children Use Used Order Creatures Adults Weak Our Children Independent Various Dependent Helpless Competent Deserving

Book:For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence

Source: For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence

“In today's world parents find themselves at the mercy of a society which imposes pressures and priorities that allow neither timenor place for meaningful activities and relations between children and adults, which downgrade the role of parents and the functions of parenthood, and which prevent the parent from doing things he wants to do as a guide, friend, and companion to his children.”

World Want Children Today Parent Roles Activity Adults Mercy Function Relation Pressure Guides Priorities Meaningful Companion Parenthood Today's World

Book:2 Wrlds Childhood

Source: 2 Wrlds Childhood

“If the Russians have gone too far in subjecting the child and his peer group to conformity to a single set of values imposed by the adult society, perhaps we have reached the point of diminishing returns in allowing excessive autonomy and in failing to utilize the constructive potential of the peer group in developing social responsibility and consideration for others.”

Source: 2 Wrlds Childhood

“As the creative adult needs to toy with ideas, the child, to form his ideas, needs toys--and plenty of leisure and scope to play with them as he likes, and not just the way adults think proper. This is why he must be given this freedom for his play to be successful and truly serve him well.”

Thinking Way Needs Wells Children Ideas Play Form Given Creativity Creative Successful Adults Likes Plenty Being Successful Leisure Toys Scope

Author:Bruno Bettelheim

“A parent who from his own childhood experience is convinced of the value of fairy tales will have no difficulty in answering his child's questions; but an adult who thinks these tales are only a bunch of lies had better not try telling them; he won't be able to related them in a way which would enrich the child's life.”

Thinking Way Trying Children Able Lying Values Parent Childhood Adults Difficulty Convinced Bunch Tales Related Fairy Fairy Tale

Book:The uses of enchantment: the meaning and importance of fairy tales

Source: The uses of enchantment: the meaning and importance of fairy tales

“Although we like to think of young children's lives as free of troubles, they are in fact filled with disappointment and frustration. Children wish for so much, but can arrange so little of their own lives, which are so often dominated by adults without sympathy for the children's priorities. That is why children have a much greater need for daydreams than adults do. And because their lives have been relatively limited they have a greater need for material from which to form daydreams.”

Source: Freud's Vienna and Other Essays

“The child knows only that he engages in play because it is enjoyable. He isn't aware of his need to play--a need which has its source in the pressure of unsolved problems. Nor does he know that his pleasure in playing comes from a deep sense of well-being that is the direct result of feeling in control of things, in contrast to the rest of his life, which is managed by his parents or other adults.”

Knows Needs Wells Children Doe Play Feelings Problem Parent Pleasure Results Source Adults Direct Pressure Well Being Contrast Enjoyable Unsolved Problems

Author:Bruno Bettelheim

“Very early in our children's lives we will be forced to realize that the "perfect" untroubled life we'd like for them is just a fantasy. In daily living, tears and fights and doing things we don't want to do are all part of our human ways of developing into adults.”

Way Want Humans Children Fighting Realizing Perfect Fantasy Tears Adults Our Children Developing Torn Daily Living

Author:Fred Rogers

“It is one of the paradoxes of parenting, and often a painful paradox, that even as our children need us for love and trust, they also need us for honest differing. It's not only over limits and rules...[but also] about what we represent in the way of culture, traditions, and values. We owe it to our children to let them know what we believe, and if they differ with us, we owe it to them to be honest adversaries, for it is through this honest confrontation that children can grow into adults who have a firm sense of their place in the sequence of the generations.”

“The new concept of the child as equal and the new integration of children into adult life has helped bring about a gradual but certain erosion of these boundaries that once separated the world of children from the word of adults, boundaries that allowed adults to treat children differently than they treated other adults because they understood that children are different.”

World Children Different Certain Equal Understood Concepts Adults Treats Boundaries Treated Integration Erosion

Author:Marie Winn

“A family's responses to crisis or to a new situation mirror those of a child. That is to say, the way a small child deals with a new challenge (for instance, learning to walk) has certain predictable stages: regression, anxiety, mastery, new energy, growth, and feedback for future achievement. These stages can also be seen in adults coping with new life events, whether positive or negative.”

“Young children learn in a different manner from that of older children and adults, yet we can teach them many things if we adapt our materials and mode of instruction to their level of ability. But we miseducate young children when we assume that their learning abilities are comparable to those of older children and that they can be taught with materials and with the same instructional procedures appropriate to school-age children.”

Source: Miseducation: preschoolers at risk

“The shift from the perception of the child as innocent to the perception of the child as competent has greatly increased the demands on contemporary children for maturity, for participating in competitive sports, for early academic achievement, and for protecting themselves against adults who might do them harm. While children might be able to cope with any one of those demands taken singly, taken together they often exceed children's adaptive capacity.”

“The idea of childhood as a social invention, in retrospect, is hardly credible. In the Bible, in writings of the Greeks and Romans, and in the works of the first great educator of the modern era, Comenius, children were recognized as being both different from adults and different from one another with respect to their stages of development. To be sure, the scientific study of children and the increased length of life in modern times have enhanced our understanding of age differences, but they have always been acknowledged.”

“Freud, Jung thought, had been a great discoverer of facts about the mind, but far too inclined to leave the solid ground of "critical reason and common sense." Freud for his part criticized Jung for being gullible about occult phenomena and infatuated with Oriental religions; he viewed with sardonic and unmitigated skepticism Jung's defense of religious feelings as an integral element in mental health. For Freud, religion was a psychological need projected onto culture, the child's feeling of helplessness surviving in adults, to be analyzed rather than admired.”

“If we desire a kinder nation, seeing it through the eyes of children is an eminently sensible endeavor: A city that is pro-child,for example, is also a more humane place for adults.”

Ifs Children Eye Desire Nations Community Cities Seeing Example Adults Endeavor Sensible Humane Kinder Through The Eyes Eyes Of A Child

Book:Childhood's Future

Source: Childhood's Future

“Adults who enter into public life implicitly consent to having less privacy, but their families - especially their children - should not be treated callously or thoughtlessly.”

“All in all, the communally reared children of Israel are far from the emotional disasters that psychoanalytic theory predicted. Neither have they been saved from all personality problems, as the founders of the kibbutz movement had hoped when they freed children from their parents. In any reasonable environment, children seem to grow up to be themselves. There is no evidence that communal rearing with stimulating, caring adults is either the ruination or the salvation of children.”

“Parents ought to feel more comfortable about the care of their children than some experts would seem to permit. If children were so fragile and parenting so difficult to learn, where would we all be as adults?”

Ifs Feels Children Seems Care Parent Difficult Ought Comfortable Adults Experts Permit Fragile

Author:Sandra Scarr

“Each era invents its own child. Over the past 500 years, conceptions of the child changed gradually from an ill-formed adult who must be subjugated to society's goals to a precious being who must be protected from unreasonable social demands. Childhood has come to be seen as a special period of life, rather than as a temporary state of no lasting importance for adulthood.”

Years Children States Past Social Goal Change Childhood Special Changed Periods Demand Adults Importance Ill Eras Lasting Temporary Conception Protected Adulthood Over The Past Unreasonable

Author:Sandra Scarr

“Babies learn most of what they know from interactions with their parents, but not of the formal, instructional variety. Babies learn from spontaneous, everyday events--the mailman at the door with a package to open...all of which need adult interpretation. They are real events of interest and concern to babies and young children....By contrast, infant education is artificial and out of context.”

“Children thrive in a variety of family forms; they develop normally with single parents, with unmarried parents, with multiple caretakers in a communal setting, and with traditional two-parent families. What children require is loving and attentive adults, not a particular family type.”

Children Two Form Parent Particular Type Adults Setting Traditional Settings Variety Thrive Multiple Unmarried Single Parent Caretakers

Author:Sandra Scarr

“Compliant children are very easily led when they are young, because they thrive on approval and pleasing adults. They are just aseasily led in their teen years, because they still seek the same two things: approval and the pleasing their peers. Strong-willed children are never easily led by anybody--not by you, but also not by their peers. So celebrate your child's strength of will throughout the early years...and know that the independent thinking you are fostering will serve him well in the critical years to come.”

“Most adults would not dream of belittling, humiliating, or bullying (verbally or physically) another adult. But many of the same adults think nothing of treating their adolescent child like a nonperson. . . . Adolescents deserve the same civility their parents routinely extend to total strangers.”

Thinking Children Dream Parent Adults Deserve Stranger Bullying Adolescence Civility Humiliating Belittle

Book:You and Your Adolescent, New and Revised edition: The Essential Guide for Ages 10-25

Source: You and Your Adolescent, New and Revised edition: The Essential Guide for Ages 10-25

“Gratitude isn't just a feeling, it's an action. Expressing gratitude by writing in a journal, taking a photo, or shooting a video creates a lasting impression that can bring more gratitude into the world-for children and adults.”

World Writing Children Feelings Motivational Action Gratitude Adults Appreciation Impression Video Shooting Lasting Journal Thankfulness Being Thankful Expressing Gratitude Lasting Impressions

Author:Janice Kaplan

“Many more children observe attitudes, values and ways different from or in conflict with those of their families, social networks,and institutions. Yet today's young people are no more mature or capable of handling the increased conflicting and often stimulating information they receive than were young people of the past, who received the information and had more adult control of and advice about the information they did receive.”

People Way Children Different Today Past Young Values Social Attitude Advice Information Conflict Capable Adults Institutions Mature Social Network

Book:School Power: Implications of an Intervention Project

Source: School Power: Implications of an Intervention Project

“Although adults have a role to play in teaching social skills to children, it is often best that they play it unobtrusively. In particular, adults must guard against embarrassing unskilled children by correcting them too publicly and against labeling children as shy in ways that may lead the children to see themselves in just that way.”

Way May Children Play Social Roles Teaching Particular Skills Adults Shy Embarrassing Correcting Labeling Social Skills

Author:Zick Rubin

“Children, then, acquire social skills not so much from adults as from their interactions with one another. They are likely to discover through trial and error which strategies work and which do not, and later to reflect consciously on what they have learned.”

Children Social Skills Adults Strategy Errors Trials Acquire Interaction Trial And Error Social Skills

Author:Zick Rubin

“In 1600 the specialization of games and pastimes did not extend beyond infancy; after the age of three or four it decreased and disappeared. From then on the child played the same games as the adult, either with other children or with adults. . . . Conversely, adults used to play games which today only children play.”

Children Play Age Today Used Three Games Four Adults Infancy Pastime Only Child Specialization Children Playing

Book:Centuries of childhood: a social history of family life

Source: Centuries of childhood: a social history of family life

“I do find it therapeutic, writing about stuff that was frightening and painful as a child, and managing to see it from an adult's point of view. To get it out of the closet onto paper, metaphorically speaking, is therapeutic.”

Writing Children Stuff Views Paper Adults Painful Point Of View Frightening Closets Therapeutic

Author:Julie Walters

“We need to actually teach kids that books aren't like broccoli. You don't have to eat every bit on your plate. It's like secret adult's business. It's the secret we never, ever tell our children. No adult ever read a book because it's good for us. We read because it is fun.”

Needs Children Book Kids Fun Bits Secret Teach Adults Our Children Plates Broccoli

Author:Jackie French

“Not everybody loves their children. If that was a fact, all the children would be happy and they would make happy adults. Instead, we have lots of miserable children that later became miserable adults. This is a fact. We cannot change that.”

Ifs Children Facts Would Be Adults Miserable Make Happy

Author:Marjane Satrapi

“Many children grow through adolescence with no ripples whatever and land smoothly and predictably in the adult world with both feet on the ground. Some who have stumbled and bumbled through childhood suddenly burst into bloom. Most shake, steady themselves, zigzag, fight, retreat, pick up, take new bearings, and finally find their own true balance.”

World Children Fighting Grows Feet Land Childhood Balance Picks Adults Shakes Steady Adolescence Retreat Ripple Feet On The Ground

Author:Stella Chess

“Normal children of both sexes and all cultures will follow a more or less standard and universal developmental pattern and timetable, and reach approximately the same level of development at maturity. While a particular culture's need and expectations and teaching will shape the course of development and affect adult capabilities to some degree, normal individuals, whatever their native culture, if transplanted and taught, could learn to meet the normal demands of their adapted cultures.”

Source: Daughters: from infancy to independence

“More and more I've come to understand that listening is one of the most important things we can do for one another. Whether the other be an adult or a child, our engagement in listening to who that person is can often be our greatest gift. Whether that person is speaking or playing or dancing, building or singing or painting, if we care, we can listen.”

Ifs Children Persons Important Care Can Do Building Painting Listening Singing Adults Important Things Dancing Engagement Greatest Gifts Often Is

Book:Wisdom from the World According to Mister Rogers: Important Things to Remember

Source: Wisdom from the World According to Mister Rogers: Important Things to Remember

“It is usual to speak in a playfully apologetic tone about one's adult enjoyment of what are called 'children's books.' I think the convention a silly one. No book is really worth reading at the age of ten which is not equally (and often far more) worth reading at the age of fifty-except, of course, books of information. The only imaginative works we ought to grow out of are those which it would have been better not to have read at all. A mature palate will probably not much care for crème de menthe: but it ought still to enjoy bread and butter and honey.”

Source: Of Other Worlds: Essays and Stories

“We must have...a place where children can have a whole group of adults they can trust.”

Children Whole Groups Adults

Author:Margaret Mead

“From my clinical experience, I consider that children and adults with Asperger's Syndrome have a different, not defective, way of thinking.”

Thinking Way Children Different Adults Way Of Thinking Syndromes Defective Clinicals Aspergers Asperger's Syndrome

Author:Tony Attwood

“We must establish all over the country schools of our own to train our own children to become scientists, to become mathematicians. We must realize the need for adult education and for job retraining programs that will emphasize a changing society in which automation plays the key role. We intend to use the tools of education to help raise our people to an unprecedented level of excellence and self respect through their own efforts.”

Source: By any means necessary

“Indeed, the great Leonardo (da Vinci) remained like a child for the whole of his life in more than one way. It is said that all great men are bound to retain some infantile part. Even as an adult he continued to play, and this was another reason why he often appeared uncanny and incomprehensible to his contemporaries.”

Men Way Children Said Reason Play Whole Adults Bounds One Way Reason Why Great Men Uncanny Infantile Leonardo

Book:Leonardo da Vinci

Source: Leonardo da Vinci

“Little girls are cute and small only to adults. To one another they are not cute. They are life-sized.”

Children Littles Girl Parent Family Childhood Adults Cute Cat Eye

Book:Cat's Eye

Source: Cat's Eye

“As children, our protests availed little. As adults, the same.”

Children Littles Adults Protest

Author:Mason Cooley

“Personal change, growth, development, identity formation--these tasks that once were thought to belong to childhood and adolescence alone now are recognized as part of adult life as well. Gone is the belief that adulthood is, or ought to be, a time of internal peace and comfort, that growing pains belong only to the young; gone the belief that these are marker events--a job, a mate, a child--through which we will pass into a life of relative ease.”

“• As society rapidly changes, individuals will have to be able to function comfortably in a world that is always in flux. Knowledge will continue to increase at a dizzying rate. This means that a content-based curriculum, with a set body of information to be imparted to students, is entirely inappropriate as a means of preparing children for their adult roles.”

World Mean Children Body Able Individual Roles Information Students Adults Function Increase Rate Preparing Curriculum Inappropriate Flux

Book:Dumbing Us Down: The Hidden Curriculum of Compulsory Schooling

Source: Dumbing Us Down: The Hidden Curriculum of Compulsory Schooling

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