Quotessence
Home / Topics / Bad Advice Quotes

Bad Advice Quotes

Browse 47 quotes about Bad Advice.

Related topics

Good AdviceGiving

Bad Advice Quotes

“Attitude Is Everything We live in a culture that is blind to betrayal and intolerant of emotional pain. In New Age crowds here on the West Coast, where your attitude is considered the sole determinant of the impact an event has on you, it gets even worse.In these New Thought circles, no matter what happens to you, it is assumed that you have created your own reality. Not only have you chosen the event, no matter how horrible, for your personal growth. You also chose how you interpret what happened—as if there are no interpersonal facts, only interpretations. The upshot of this perspective is that your suffering would vanish if only you adopted a more evolved perspective and stopped feeling aggrieved. I was often kindly reminded (and believed it myself), “there are no victims.” How can you be a victim when you are responsible for your circumstances? When you most need validation and support to get through the worst pain of your life, to be confronted with the well-meaning, but quasi-religious fervor of these insidious half-truths can be deeply demoralizing. This kind of advice feeds guilt and shame, inhibits grieving, encourages grandiosity and can drive you to be alone to shield your vulnerability.”

SufferingAttitudeResponsibilityShameGuiltMental HealthTraumaBetrayalPositive AttitudeIntolerancePtsdStigmaEmotional PainInsidiousVictimsBelief In SelfVictimhoodTraumatizedDemoralizingVictim BlamingBad AdviceTraumaticInvalidationStigmatizationHalf TruthsTraumatizationUnsupportiveLoss Of BeliefBlind To BetrayalFalse Perspective
Author:Sandra Lee Dennis
Create image

“He wouldn't tell me that I always have two options—You can choose how you feel or you you can let your feelings choose you because maybe it is true that those were the options that my husband had, but I knew I didn't have those options and I hated for someone to tell me that I had options I didn't have because I knew that my mind was a small object for sale and my feelings could pick me up and own me and maybe my husband was too expensive for feelings to choose him, to pick him up and have him rung up and scanned and bagged and taken along with those feelings, feelings of I can't really get out of bed today and Husband, would you please not talk to me for the rest of the year. I, too often, had my face smashed against concrete curbs of Ruby, memories of Ruby, the way her face had looked that afternoon as she curled in that chair by the window and the light streaming in and the dark streaming out and what happened so soon after—I went around hostage to those memories, an invisible person following me with a gun barrel to my back.”

MemoriesDepressionThoughtsMetaphorMental IllnessLack Of UnderstandingStream Of ConsciousnessPatronizingCatherine LaceyBad AdviceNobody Is Ever Missing
Book:Nobody Is Ever Missing
Create image

“She couldn't or simply wouldn't understand why I wanted to sleep all the time, and she was always rubbing my nose in her moral high ground and telling me to 'face the music' about whatever bad habit I'd been stuck on at the time. The summer I started sleeping, Reva admonished me for 'squandering my bikini body.' 'Smoking kills.' 'You should get out more.' 'Are you getting enough protein in your diet?' Et cetera.”

HumorDialogueLack Of UnderstandingOttessa MoshfeghMy Year Of Rest And RelaxationBad AdviceHolier Than ThouUnhelpful
Book:My Year of Rest and Relaxation
Create image

“I think more people would stay active in church, if they didn't get so offended by the actions of members. Sometimes, you have to view places of worship as free mental health clinics, in order to deal with the piety or hypocrisy. Parishioners are a wounded souls in various stages of healing, who are being treated by angels, with credentials from the University of Hard Knocks. Some take their therapy seriously and try to practice what they learned. Yet, others down the sacrament like a healing dose of Prozac, with no other effort required. When you keep this in mind, you won't feel so annoyed by the personalities you encounter.”

RealityReligionPeaceChurchHealingPsychologyWorshipHarmonySalvationMental HealthTheologyInsaneInsanityTherapyPsychiatrySoulsTherapistsPublic HealthChurchesBad AdviceMental DisordersAsylumHealersWounded SoulsCounselorsWounded SoulUnorganizedFree TherapyMental InstitutionUneducated ShrinksWorship Teams
Author:Shannon L. Alder
Create image

“Any other town you go to there's this little devil and a little angel on your shoulder. A little good advice, a little bad advice.You go to Las Vegas, there's like a devil and a devil and they're just battling it out the whole time. It's like, "Smoke some crack!" "Get a hooker!" And then I go, "YEA! Yea, this is a good town. Smoke some crack and get a hooker! Alright!"”

LittlesWholeFunnyAdviceDevilAngelTownsShouldersSmokeCracksVegasLas VegasAlrightGood AdviceBad AdviceLittle Angel
Author:Bill Burr
Create image

“There is a little bit of that schoolyard attitude of, it's one thing for a guy your own size to mouth off to you, but if there's a little guy, you should just smack him around. And it's probably bad advice in the schoolyard. It's certainly not a good way to run a foreign policy because even when you are dealing with a non-peer, militarily, war is complicated.”

IfsWayShouldLittlesWarRunningGuyBitsAttitudeOne ThingAdvicePolicyLittle BitMouthsSizeComplicatedForeign PolicyPeersGood WaySmackBad Advice
Author:Barack Obama
Create image

“The Russian myth that they broadcast to the world, and have their various surrogates in the West repeat, is that somehow the West took advantage of them, that we were mean to them. That writes out of history everything Strobe Talbott and Bill Clinton tried to do with Boris Yeltsin. Strobe Talbott leaned forward doing everything he could to help the Russians, and frankly, I have little patience for the notion that we gave them nothing but bad advice.”

WorldWritingMeanLittlesHelpingAdviceAdvantageBillsWestClintonNotionVariousMythRepeatsSurrogatesBad Advice
Author:Daniel Fried
Create image

“What I find to be very bad advice is the snappy little sentence, 'Write what you know.' It is the most tiresome and stupid advice that could possibly be given. If we write simply about what we know we never grow. We don't develop any facility for languages, or an interest in others, or a desire to travel and explore and face experience head-on. We just coil tighter and tighter into our boring little selves. What one should write about is what interests one.”

IfsKnowsShouldWritingLittlesSelfFacesDesireLanguageGivenGrowsInterestAdviceStupidBoringSentencesFacilityTiresomeBad AdviceInterest In Others
Author:Annie Proulx
Create image

“I wish I could tell you to always follow your heart, but I think it is bad advice. You have a heart, yes, it is true, but also a brain and also a soul. I've come to believe that we love with our brains as much as our hearts. Real Love is not just instinct, but intent...... From year to year, you may not always be the same Jane. This is perfectly normal. A Jane is many Janes in a lifetime.”

ThinkingYearsBelieveHeartMayRealSoulWishLove IsBrainAdviceNormalInstinctLifetimeReal LoveJaneFollow Your HeartPerfectly NormalBad AdviceAlways Follow Your Heart
Author:Gabrielle Zevin
Create image

“I didn't go Hollywood on the outside with flashy cars, upstairs maids and mink covered bathroom fixtures. I went Hollywood on the inside and that's worst of all. I tried to avoid being natural. I lowered my voice. I copied the mannerisms of other stars. I struck poses. I received bad advice - from dramatic coaches, from agents, and from studio executives. I stopped being a human being. I blame myself and I blame Hollywood's star system.”

FirstsHumansCharacterStarsVoiceNaturalHuman BeingsWorstAdviceCarHollywoodBlameStudiosCoachesAgentsDramaticExecutivesCoveredBathroomMovie StarMaidsUpstairsFlashyMannerismsBeing NaturalBad AdviceMinkFixtureFlashy Cars
Author:Joan Caulfield
Create image